Matchmaking, Loneliness, and Mental Health
Why this work matters even more during Mental Health Awareness Month.
May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and this year, I’ve found myself thinking less about wellness in the polished, motivational sense-and more about something that is more sensitive to talk about: loneliness.
In the world of matchmaking, we talk a lot about connection, compatibility, love. But underneath those conversations is a deeper, often quieter truth: many people are lonely. Not in a casual way. In a way that shapes how they move through the world, how they show up in relationships, how they speak to themselves. And loneliness doesn’t always look like being alone. It can live inside full calendars, long-term relationships, high-functioning routines.
I know this because I see it in my clients. And I know it because I’ve felt it too.
Matchmaking, for me, has never just been about helping people find dates. It’s about reminding people they are worth being seen. That someone is listening. That someone cares enough to learn their story and help them share it in a way that brings the right kind of people in.
That matters — especially now. Loneliness is a public health issue. Mental health struggles are widespread, and they impact how people connect, trust, and believe in the possibility of love. This is the part of matchmaking that’s not glamorous, but deeply important: helping people feel less alone in their search for something real.
And this month, I’ve been sitting with how often mental health impacts the very thing my work is built around: communication. Connection. Consistency. Sometimes people can’t reach out. Sometimes they don’t know what to say. Sometimes they stay silent — not because they don’t care, but because they’re overwhelmed or ashamed. I’ve experienced that firsthand.
So if you’ve ever gone quiet while quietly struggling… I get it.
If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re “too much” or “not enough” to be loved, I see you.
And if you’ve ever assumed that matchmaking was only for the polished, confident, and already-whole — this is your reminder that it’s actually for the human. The hopeful. The person trying their best to move toward something better.
Mental Health Awareness Month is about visibility. And for me, that means not only being honest about the struggles I’ve faced behind the scenes — but also reaffirming why this work matters.
Because connection isn’t a luxury.
Because loneliness is real.
Because feeling seen is one of the most healing experiences we can have.
And because no one deserves to go through this life feeling like they’re unmatchable.
— Nick